5 Best Tinder Icebreakers That Will Set You Apart From The Pack

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Tinder Icebreakers

Tired of getting no responses to your Tinder icebreakers?

Women on Tinder get bombarded with tons of messages every day, so it can feel daunting to come up with Tinder icebreakers that will make her notice you and want to chat.

We’ve got you covered.

Here are some perfect Tinder icebreakers you can copy/paste and use to chat up your matches.

Tinder Icebreaker #1: Last Thing

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As a general rule, one of the best ways to break the ice on Tinder is to ask your match a question.

Unless her cat accidentally swiped on you, chances are high she’ll respond, and like that you’re bold and inquisitive.

Asking about the latest media/entertainment she consumed is a fun way to learn about her interests. Bonus points if your question relates to something she mentioned in her bio!


You: So Lisa, what’s the last concert you went to?
Lisa: Seven Lions! It was a great show
Lisa: What about you?

You: What’s the last movie you watched, Abby?
Abby: Captain Marvel! Just went to see it last night, in fact
You: Awesome! I’ve been wanting to go. Was it good?
Abby: I liked it a lot! Brie Larson is amazing

Tinder Icebreaker #2: Top Five

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A lot of people list very general interests in their Tinder bios like movies, adventure, and fun. Talking about these things is way more interesting when you get specific.

Does she like traveling? Ask her the top five places she’s been to.

Does she like breweries? Ask her top five fave beers.


You: list your top 5 snack foods….go
Jenna: haha ok, umm…
Jenna: Pringles, swedish fish, white cheddar popcorn, chex mix, cookies & cream ice cream
Jenna: What are yours??

You: What are your top 5 favorite tv shows?
Katie: Community, Breaking Bad, GoT, True Detective, Black Mirror
You: all amazing
Katie: What are yours?

Tinder Icebreaker #3: ____ Or ____?

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Confidently skip past pleasantries and ask about her preferences in an “either/or” format.

Pro tip: Save “Your place or mine” for a bit later in the convo. 😎


You: Karen or Pam?
Kelly: I’ve been waiting to be asked this my whole life. Karen! Karen did nothing wrong and was awesome, and Pam was sneaky and manipulative.
Kelly: Dwight or Jim?

You: Rom com or horror?
Rose: Honestly, neither! I’m more of a thriller/action movie person
You: I dig it! What’s the best thriller you’ve seen recently?
Rose: Glass was pretty good!

Tinder Icebreaker #4: Hypothetical Scenario

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If you get the vibe your match is a bit of a dreamer or philosophical, try asking a hypothetical “if” question. Be ready for her to turn around and ask you right back!


You: If you could go back and be any age you want for a month, what would you choose?
Tara: I’d love to be 10 again, staying outside til dusk every day, just riding my bike around with my friends! No worries or cares :)
Tara: What about you?

You: If you could be any living person for a day, who would you choose?
Illiana: Oh, that’s a hard one!
Illiana: Maybe Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez. She’s such a badass, and I wonder what a day in her life is like

Tinder Icebreaker #5: Bucket List

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Even if the extent of your normal adventures is ordering takeout from a new restaurant, people tend to like chatting about more exciting stuff early in the dating process (Not knocking the joy of takeout; I feel the GrubHub love, friend).

Asking about your match’s bucket list is a great way to gauge if your wanderlust goals overlap (or if the very idea of a triathlon gives you cold sweats).


You: What’s on your bucket list that you plan to check off this year?
Teagan: Funny you ask, I’ve been dying to go to Peru for as long as I can remember, and I just bought my flights today!

You: If you had to limit your bucket list to 3 things, what would they be?
Naomi: But I want to do so much! I guess if I had to, I’d pick running a marathon, skydiving, and going on a safari trip.
You: Wow, adventurous!
Naomi: I’m actually scared of all of those things, but that’s why I want to do them!

Pro Tip: They’re not going to be into your Tinder icebreaker if they’re not into your pics

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Your photos make a huge difference in the way matches “hear” your messages.

In fact, you could say the same thing to the same person — just with a different main profile pic — and get a completely different reaction.

To know for sure you’re using the right Tinder pics, test yours on Photofeeler. Choosing your pics this way has been known to increase Tinder matches by 3-5x (200-400%).


Go to now and give it a try!

Looking for more Tinder icebreakers? Check out:
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