How much does a polar bear weigh?

Enough to break the ice. *da dum tissss*

Don’t worry– we won’t bore you into the ground with icebreakers like this. This article is all about the best Tinder first messages that pique interest and get replies because talking to an echo chamber sucks.

Keep in mind that women on Tinder receive an average of 20+ messages a day, so writing a first message that stands out is vital if you want to catch her attention. Without further ado, here are some perfect Tinder icebreakers you can copy/paste and use to chat up your matches.

Tinder Icebreaker #1: Last Thing

As a general rule, one of the best ways to break the ice on Tinder is to ask your match a question. Unless her cat accidentally swiped on you, chances are high she’ll respond, and like that you’re bold and inquisitive.

Asking about the latest media/entertainment she consumed is a fun way to learn about her interests. Bonus points if your question relates to something she mentioned in her bio!

Tinder Icebreaker #2: Get Personal

Women appreciate when you notice small details. Since a majority of men swipe without reading bios, a specific reference to her profile will earn you quick brownie points (and a higher likelihood of a response).

Examples:

• “Your dog looks like the ultimate hiking buddy! What’s his name?”
• “I see you’re into pottery—what’s the coolest thing you’ve made so far?”
• “I noticed you’re wearing a Jelly Roll shirt! I love his new album. What’s your favorite song?”

Tinder Icebreaker #3: Hypothetical Scenario

Women love intriguing questions that make them think. Asking a creative “what if” scenario can spark curiosity. Here are three other examples:

• “If you could live in any fictional universe, which one would you pick and why?”
• “If you could have dinner with any celebrity, who would it be?”
• “If you were given one million dollars and 24 hours to spend it, how would you?”

Why it works: Hypotheticals allow her to showcase her personality while giving you something unique to build the conversation on. These messages feel low pressure for her, give you intel, and initiate a convo.

Tinder Icebreaker #4: Playful Compliments

Everyone enjoys a compliment, but in 2024, it’s all about being specific and clever. Forget generic lines like “You’re beautiful.” Instead, go for humor and originality.

Examples:

• “Your travel pics look so good I’m reconsidering my staycation lifestyle.”
• “If your dog/cat picked your photos, tell them they nailed it—absolute perfection.”
• “I think you might be singlehandedly responsible for global warming—your profile’s got way too much heat.”

Tinder Icebreaker #5: Overrated and Underrated

This Tinder icebreaker is a fun, low-pressure way to spark a conversation and get to know her opinions. By asking something like, “What’s the most overrated food you’ve tried?” or “What’s an underrated movie more people need to see?”, you’re inviting her to share her personal tastes, which can quickly lead to playful debates or shared recommendations.

This opener works because it’s engaging, opinion-driven, and allows her personality to shine through, all while keeping the vibe light and flirty.

Tinder Icebreaker #6: New in Town?

Every new city transplant loves an excellent local recommendation. If her bio says she’s new in the neighborhood, this is a perfect opportunity to show her a few cool spots. And who knows? Maybe she’ll like them as much as you do and they’ll become the go-to places you both enjoy together.

Tinder Icebreaker #7: Fill the Bio

If the photos caught your eye but you have nothing to go off– this is the icebreaker for you.

Fill in the bio, ask how much you got right, and invite her to do the same.

Tinder Icebreaker #8: Expectations

This icebreaker can be used in so many situations: travelers, new hobbyists, etc. It’s a surefire way to laugh and bond over shared realizations. Were you both surprised at how monkeys stole your belongings in Thailand? We were, too!

Tinder Icebreaker #9: Play a Game

One of the best icebreakers we’ve ever seen was “I can tell you your Hogwarts house with one question.” I mean, who wouldn’t be immediately curious?

There are many ways to repurpose the flirtatious, gamified feel of this intro question. Here’s some more options:

• “If you were a drink at a bar, I bet I could guess exactly what you’d be. Wanna test my psychic skills?”
• “I bet I can guess your Starbucks order. Give me three tries, and if I’m wrong, coffee’s on me.” (This one is the ultimate boss)
• “I will guess your pet’s name if you give me the first letter.”

But… They won’t be into your icebreaker if they’re not into your pics.

Your photos make a huge difference in the way matches “hear” your messages. You could say the same thing to the same person — just with a different main profile pic — and get a completely different reaction.

To know you’re using the right Tinder pics, test yours on Photofeeler. Choosing your pics this way has increased Tinder matches by 3-5x (200-400%)!