The Only OkCupid Profile Tips You’ll Ever Need
Other OkCupid profile tips lists pile on unimportant, biased suggestions. They don’t create real change in messages and dates. The truth is, few tips truly make a difference. These are the ones we’ll be sharing with you today.
#1 Think of Yourself as a Product
What are the best keywords to describe what “you” are? (Ex: An engineer? A creative? An athlete/fitness enthusiast?)
Second, what is the “consumer” getting if they “buy”? (Ex: Your contagious enthusiasm for life? A good listener? Interesting conversation about books? Boozy campfires? Raucous club outings?)
The answers to these questions should go into your written bio.
#2 Remember: Short and Light
Avoid the need to answer questions with filler text like “I’m not sure.” Rather, if you have nothing to say, don’t say anything at all. When you do answer, keep it brief — no rambling.
Also avoid the urge to air your grievances with women or past relationships. Negative language in profiles is an immediate red flag for most people.
That’s not to say you have to “pretend to be someone else” or never be emotionally vulnerable. It just means, for a first impression, you want to approach your profile with the same light and friendly tone that you’d ordinarily take with a total stranger.
#3 Test Your Pics on Photofeeler to Pick the Best Ones
OkCupid’s own data is clear: your pics are, by far, the most important aspect of your profile.
Your profile pictures color the tone of every word on your profile and every message you send. That is, a winky face may feel “cool” next to one photo but “over-eager” next to another.
And too many people unknowingly choose pics that are horribly unflattering to them.
I could give you 1,000 tips for getting the right OkCupid profile photos — but let’s face it — everyone’s different. What works for one doesn’t always work for another.
To be sure you’re not killing your chances with bad pictures, just test yours on Photofeeler.